Married 23 years!

                        

If I get married, I want to be very married.

Audrey Hepburn

Today My Scotsman and I will be married for 23 years.

The strange thing is we both almost forgot this important date. My guy is a total romantic and never forgets…ever.

I think we just had too much on our mind. What is important is that our love is strong and we remembered before the day passed us by! 

However I would like to celebrate what it really means to be together or married through thick and thin. We are young-ins compared to my parents, who have been married 54 years.

What is love? (written by Harleena Singh)

It is the total surrender of your heart to another person when you have that confidence that they will treat your heart better than you will.

Love feels good, not bad. It should want to make you a better person, not lead you to do something damaging. (excluding spanking lol.) It makes you glow and soar in spirit.

Love knows no limits, no boundaries, and no limitations. It is unconditional, limitless, and always flowing. We can’t avoid getting hurt in love, but it is worth any hurt to love truly.

I watch my mother and father weather the devastation that Alzheimer’s can wreck upon the life and love you know and remember.

Waking up to your sweetheart but going to bed with a stranger.

I watch my father comfort and care for the most important person in his life. His tenderness when she is scared makes me cry but proud. The compassion and devotion he has for her is all encompassing.

I watch my mom still try and care for him even when she isn’t sure what to do. We see all the times she fights to hold onto her past and present. Her love for my dad is her world. She looks for him when he is gone from her side for a brief moment. She tries so hard to be strong and he helps her!

That is POWER of TRUE enduring love, and what I hope to continue sharing with my Scotsman.

Here are some thoughtful quotes:

 If you are blessed, you are blessed, whether you are married or single.

Greta Garbo

 Sexiness wears thin after a while and beauty fades, but to be married to a person who makes you laugh every day, ah, now that's a real treat.

(person is my word…I think anyone should be able to marry if they wish.)

Joanne Woodward

“True love is born from understanding.” ~ The Buddha

Spanked On The Dance Floor!

                                  

Well swats…Really!

I know when life is getting too busy for me!

It is often when I start screwing up. (Like when I wear clothes inside-out) I forget important commitments, never people, but activities or crucial promises of my time.

Each day begins at the crack of dawn…and I am pulled many ways….like everyone else I know-- but….

Sometimes….

Maybe I forget to teach my night class…Yep happened twice in the not too distant past! ( To be honest the students cancelled twice on me so these were add-ons)

Maybe I forget to contact someone to fire the kiln at a class I teach. (Sigh) My day is so packed this happens often, and then it is too late to fix the problem.

I have to use my own money to order supplies because my time is so limited I need to hurry and get it immediately, instead of anticipating my needs…Therefore I need to wait for reimbursement…(If I do not misplace the receipt)

And….maybe I don’t want to take the car in to have the fluids topped off because that is his job…..So I drive without wind shield wiper fluid… Not again…. I know it is DANGEROUS…LOL

So to get to the point…My Scotsman always swats and tosses me over his knee when I am snarky…etc. But often the stress is still there! Surprised?

Friday we were going to meet a couple to have dinner and drinks at an Irish pub. Entertainment and dancing were on the agenda! So were TWO Martinis! Ahem….After one drink before food my guy noticed my…FIESTINESS! I was just relaxing and feeling GOOD! 

Dinner was ordered…..and I ordered another Martini….I think this is where he threatened to turn me over his knee right then and there…smiling with a "certain" look in his eye.

I said… “No you won’t” 

He said, “You taking bravery pills?”

I smiled…..Yes I did…nicely though….

We ate dinner and I nursed my second Martini. (see?)

The music began and I was bursting to dance. (Stress relief..here I come) We made our way to the floor. He took my right hand and grasped it up near his shoulder, his right arm around my waist and a hand on my back.

The song was one that many may dance alone or close together! I wanted to (and did) wiggle (To the faster beat) against his slower LEAD (to the slower beat).

He whispered, “Come closer and slow down…, let me set the pace.”

I didn’t really listen….No I wasn't hearing him...

SMACK! His hand came down on my bottom! 

Holy cow! I looked up and around! No one seemed shocked!

Sheesh! I was red faced and maybe slowed down immediately!

He always surprises me!

We finished our dance in harmony!

Love Spanks

                                                   

I am once again excited to be an Ambassador for 
                         LOVE SPANKS
                                  2014!!
As usual I am hopeless at the technical stuff! I had access to a perfect version of everything you will read below. Tara kindly created an easy attachment. Guess who couldn't make it work? So I went to Ana's blog and copied and pasted all the info! At least you all know what to expect with me! I never disappoint!

When two grown-ups love each other, someone might get a spanking!

How would you like a brand-new Kindle Fire or Nook HD or another prize from a pool valued at over $1,000?

How about free stories from award-winning authors?

This Valentine’s Day, you can participate in a short story extravaganza! F/F authors will showcase romance, paranormal, sci-fi, fantasy and spanking fiction for your enjoyment. Chat with your favorite authors, meet new-to-you authors, find great new books, and meet new friends!

Want to become a Love Spanks ambassador and earn an extra prize entry? See below!

Even better, participation could earn you a GRAND PRIZE!

• Kindle Fire or Nook HD (winner’s choice)!
  (donated by Blushing Books)
• Book cover plus author promotional package for one F/F book(donated by Fantasia Frog Designs)
• Custom social media package for a F/F author(donated by The Cover Artisan)
• Pre-publication consultation of a F/F manuscript up to 15K(donated by Wizards in Publishing)
• Beginning Domestic Discipline Boot Camp package: 
  2 books and a 6-month online couple membership
  (donated by Learning Domestic Discipline)
• Three-month membership to Discipline and Desire

• $50 gift certificate to Amazon(donated by Beachwalk Press)
• $25 gift certificate to Evernight Publishing
  (donated by the same)
• $10 gift certificate to Amazon
  (donated by Read the Rainbow)
• $10 gift certificate to All Romance Ebooks
  (donated by the same)
• Custom-made wooden paddle*
  (donated by Blondie’s Place)
  *Available to US and Canada participants only
• Author spotlight feature(donated by VC Erotica)
• Author feature(donated by Fallen Over Book Reviews)
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•  Book Bundles from:
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  Coming Together
  Decadent Publishing
  JMS Books
  Jolynn Raymond
  Library of Spanking Fiction
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Plus, the first 50 Love Spankers will receive a copy of The Bodyguard by Saranna DeWylde!

Free books for all Love Spankers!

• Vampire’s Bard by Kate Richards
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Many authors also will offer a contest on their individual blogs.  Your comment on their blogs automatically enters you in both the main contest and the individual contests!

What’s the catch?  Absolutely nothing!  We love writing for you and want to thank you for your readership.  Perhaps someone might get a spanking or two, but that’s a reward rather than a catch, right?  

Here are the rules:

1. Visit each blog between Friday, February 7 and Sunday, February 9 to read the posted stories and excerpts.
2. Leave a comment answering the story question on each blog.  You will receive one entry per blog for the grand prize drawing.  You will also be automatically entered in that author’s individual contest, if she has one.
3. If you have visited all of the blogs, visit Ana’s blog to sign up for FIVE bonus entries to the grand prize.
   Deadline is midnight EST (UTC -5) on February 9!!
4. If you successfully completed a previous challenge (Spank or Treat 2013, Spankee Doodle 2013, Love Spanks 2013, or Spank or Treat 2012), you may add “VIP” to your comments.  You will earn THREE bonus entries toward the grand prize.  (Yes, we will be doing this again.  Yes, if you successfully complete the Love Spanks 2014 challenge you can become a VIP for our next activity!)
5. If you are a F/F author or thinking of becoming one, please add “FF” to your comments. That way, your name will be entered in the special F/F author prize drawings.
6. Visit any of the participating blogs on Friday, February 14 to find out the lucky winners.  Will it be you?

Like these events? Want to support your friendly F/F authors? Become a Love Spanks 2014 Ambassador! In exchange for promoting this event, you will receive one extra prize entry, AND you are still eligible to participate and win prizes!

To find out the details, contact Head Ambassador Tara Finnegan at tarafinneganromance at gmail dot com, with the subject line “Love Spanks Ambassador.”

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'Spanking' Fantasy versus Reality

Anastasia Vitsky is hosting the Spanking romance round table discussion discussion this week. I thought I would join in. The topic is interesting to me. What about you? 

Fantasy versus reality as it pertains to spanking.

Reality is the state of things as they exist. It's what you see, hear, and experience.

Fantasy is an imagined or conjured up sequence fulfilling a psychological need; daydream.

I often think that in indulging our fantasy we understand what we desire more in real life. Using our imagination we can make everything turn out perfectly. Many successful people visualize the life they wish for. Is that unfulfilled fantasy, or a way to create a more joyful life? We are often told to live the life we wish. If we are sad the advice is to fake it until we make it. Is that fantastical thinking? Maybe it is embracing the fantasy to create a more satisfying reality.

Most of our life we envision the future we will have.

 ie… When I am this age I will do or have this… “This” will be my career….I will marry…or not…have children….never have children.

 What about in spanking…TTWD….DD?

Spanking in romantic relationships is/was always a part of my secret desire. I often fought that wish tooth and nail in ‘real life’ and yet indulged my need in books creating stories and dreams.

My Scotsman is a spanker, but it isn’t really a DD relationship. In Our TTWD there is a bit of reeling me in, irritation when I do things that are dangerous, stress relief, and erotic spankings.

It isn’t always like the stories. Sometimes it is. Fantasy is different from reality. What is helpful is recognizing your relationship, who you are together and separately.

Sometimes it is like this:

Spankings filled with frustration, impatience, and dissatisfaction.

Me:  “No I don’t want this now, I am not in the mood!”

“Wait! That hurts”

“Sheesh what a wimpy smack!”

 “ Ooops!”

Him: “ENOUGH!! Put your legs down, move your hands.”

Me: Not saying here!

Other times it is like this:

Spankings filled with resolution, laughter and closeness.

Him: “Let’s go into the room and have some fun….”

Me: “ Sigh.” *Smile*

Him: “I think you need some stress relief.”

Me: Like a balloon slowly releasing air as all the stress leaves my body…

For me it is okay that it is not always perfect. That is real life.

 I think fantasy is perfectly natural and can bring us closer and enrich our lives. The problem is when we trade fantasy for our reality. That can be harmful. 

What Greater Love!

                                             


"Let there be no purpose in friendship save the deepening of the spirit." Kahlil Gibran

Cinnamon oil "spanking"

Promise me ---- LAUGH TO YOURSELF!

Gah…and…. Ahh…. forget it, after I out myself you will all go to town ROTFLYBO!

                                                

Let me preface this post by saying…. I actually believe I am a capable intelligent woman.

I do! I mean-- I am! I have a family and a job with lots of responsibility.

I do!

You are probably wondering what the heck I am gonna confess to doing!

I sometimes IMPULSIVELY do silly things when taking care of ME. Moving furniture…falling…and so on…

Are you surprised I did something stupid? Probably not.

After all…. I am the woman who said …see that lap, and wore her pants inside-out to work!

It all started with Ms Ana, and then Cat, our ‘wise woman of TTWD knowledge.’

Ana is writing a new story that is taking place in the ‘Castle’ Maren Smith's series. It is fantastic of course. In the story she talks about Cinnamon oil. 

Now she and Cat conferred about Cinnamon oil and its uses for heating a naughty bottom.

I wasn’t paying close attention to their discussion. I will pay attention from now on!

I believed this oil to be a nice warming massage. 

Lo and behold I received a gift in the mail after Christmas that contained cinnamon bark oil from our very dear Ms Ana!

(She is no longer ‘dear’ to me….evil yes!)

Any how I thought I would experiment a bit….. I took about two tablespoons of coconut oil and put a drop or two of cinnamon oil in a little cup. I placed a bit on my bum….with gloves.

AND Nothing happened.

I went to bed thinking I must have a granite butt! Mind you Mr. Scotsman has been heating my behind with swats and swats…not bad…so…I didn't think!

The next day after having a lazy morning I decided to take my shower.

 I thought hmmmmm... maybe I will try the oil again, after my shower.

Then my SMART self…choke…thought to add more Cinnamon oil to the already two tablespoons of coconut oil infused with just a tiny bit of cinnamon.

I added 15-20 more drops. YES.

After my shower I dipped my gloved finger into a bit of the oil and gently rubbed a bit onto my behind. BOTH CHEEKS....Two dips later!

Ummmm.... ugh....

Ohhhhh….I felt something…

Then I felt MORE!!!! I began to pat my butt with my towel……YIKES!!!! 

YIKES!!!! OUCHIE!!!! EEEK! I stamped my feet and wiggled!

I couldn’t stand it!

Frantically I dropped the towel. I jumped back into the tub, getting on all fours angling my red arse under the faucet.

I could barely move. The water at first was freezing….Not helping! I reached around the best I could and adjusted the temperature….still not working. I grabbed the bar soap and soaped and soaped up the affected area….ahemmmm. 

Thankfully no personal bits were harmed!

Finally…..

RELIEF!!!!

OMGGGGGGGGGGGosh!!!!!

Now when I shared with my darling he was absolutely dumbfounded.

“What were you thinking?”

 Not sure I was thinking.

Some massage!

Yes Ana and Cat were not sure what to say after they laughed and laughed!

Are there other uses for Cinnamon oil?

What about you all? Laughing?

I will say you are ultra sensitive to spanking even after the oil is gone!