Dangerous I
know.
This
spanking thing…punishment-discipline- maintenance– erotic-pleasure-need. Or
frankly, just reading about and desiring spanking.
Doesn’t
matter what side of the fence you are on, Or the emotions it conjures negative
or positive.
Spanking,
the action there-of, is the same. Hand or implement on the butt.
I thought
about the question of how many times in your life others beside the one you
ultimately trust with this dynamic….have threatened to spank, or have spanked
you?
I do not
mean those that ‘know’ about your desire for this lifestyle now, whether DD or
TTWD. ( I am incorporating everything in those two definitions, since I feel ttwd
can incorporate everything else.)
I mean before you were completely aware- or
acknowledged that awareness, of spanking yourself.
The reason I
ask is that I have a theory that somehow there is a law of attraction for some.I have had
boyfriends and male friends threaten my behind on more than one occasion. I
have even had a boss promise to turn me over his knee. Don’t ask... I was young
and behaved outrageously. I actually stopped what I was doing in this semi
social situation. I knew he meant it.
Spanking then didn’t
resemble anything like we read on blogs, whether dd or ttwd.
But…
At the time I would have been outraged no matter
what. (and confused)
Am I whistling
Dixie here? Do any of you have stories to share?
Very curious!
Thanks for reading!
Minelle
Hm. I was spanked and threatened with spankings as a child, but that doesn't sound like your question. I am not sure if I have ever been swatted or threatened with a spanking as an adult outside of a disciplinary context.
ReplyDeleteOh! I can think of one. Some friends and I joke (it's a long story) about getting "whapped" as a sort of slang for getting in trouble in our informal group. I get threatened with whappings for more than is fair, I must say. I can't imagine why. ;)
That's what I am talking about! I am sure that you are always the perfect angel. Ahem...Just a minute while I clear my throat! ;-)
DeleteWhappings/Spankings!
Always. Perfect angel. To the tiniest detail.
DeleteWait, we *are* taking about fallen angels, right? ;)
And I meant "far more than is fair"...
Oh yes, we all know about those fallen angels. Ahem... again.
DeleteI guess it is all a matter of opinion regarding fair. Of course I am on your side. You are right it isn't fair! lol
When we first married, Ian tried in vain to take me in hand. He threatened to spank me many times,
ReplyDeleteI am not an easy woman to control, however and we began a war for control that lasted until this year.
About two or three years into our marriage, he stopped threatening to spank me or control what he saw as misbehaviour in a dominant way and started to withdraw emotionally.
I have thought about that a great deal. He was a very dominant young man from the beginning, societal standards and I wouldn't allow him to fulfill the role that came naturally to him.
He obviously saw that as his right, early in our marriage, but it was never sexual. We never even fooled around with erotic spanking until we began dd.
I think subconsciously I chose Ian because he is such an alpha male kind of guy, and then spent the next 25 years + trying to neuter him.
What a waste.
Right from the start huh? My husband too. We just never talked about it. I didn't really acknowledge it. Even if it keyed into my hidden thoughts regarding spanking.
DeleteI actually never realized the sexual side until recent (5 years)reading. For me I read romance with spanking but not the erotica. Then I read the erotic romance without the spanking. Now they are mixed up.
I am glad things are working for you!
I wasn't spanked as a child as such. More fly by swats as I ran away lol!
ReplyDeleteI've never, up until the point of ttwd, had anyone threaten me with a spanking. Although I had many a fantasy wishing someone would :)
My parents were much the same. We were threatened, and gave the occasional swats.
DeleteMy day dreams were definitely mixed up with spanking and romance. Read a great deal of that genre.
I was spanked as a child, but rarely. I do remember as a teenager an older cousin, whom I had a crush on (give me a break, I'm southern) threatened to spank me then did! in front of several others. It hurt! We were mostly all laughing and taking it all as a big joke, but its been over 40 years ago and I sure do remember it.
ReplyDeleteHugs,
PK
Me too, mostly swats occasionally.
DeleteI would remember a spanking given me in my teens that hurt for sure! Is he still around?
I did have a boyfriend in my teens who did swat me several times on a busy street. What did I do? I sat down on the ground. LOL
I've been teasingly threatened lots of times in my adult life. An employer once but mostly guy friends.
ReplyDeleteMy experience and yours is very similar. I wonder about this. I have had a platonic male friend threaten me more than once.
DeleteI had a boyfriend that threatened to spank me a few times, but never followed through with one. I'm not sure what my reaction would have been either, lol! I probably would have hit him back!
ReplyDeleteIn junior high, I often got into trouble. Shocking, I know. Nothing too serious! Anyway, in those days, they still had corporal punishment in school. I was often given a choice of swats or detention, and I always took the swats. I still remember that huge wooden paddle the principle used. He wasn't afraid to really put some muscle behind his swing either! That would never be allowed today.
My parents always said a spanking was over quickly and settled things. However other punishments made the error or incident last.
DeleteI never was spanked in school it wasn't allowed. However I really was an angel in Elementary school.
Now HS well lets just say I was a bit more mischievous.
I remember always reacting to spankings. I grew up at a time when it was on tv, the movies, books, etc. and I always fantasized. I was threatened a couple of times by boyfriends and received the occasional swat but nothing more. I remember being threatened one time by a boss (I was in my 40's) at the time and I let him have it. In our early marriage I asked hubby a couple of times and he would give me a couple of swats here and there but it wasn't until I brought up our version of TTWD have I been spanked with any regularity (if you can call it that).
ReplyDeleteI too remember all the movies and books with spanking.
DeleteI have to admire your verve in telling that boss off. In my experience I was clearly crossing a line, He asked me to stop, told me to stop. Did I? Nope did it again. That is when he told me that if I did it one more time he would turn me over his knee. Full stop.
Well I never asked hubby until recently. He just did it playfully semi seriously as you know.
Never had any experience with spanking or being spanked in my first half century.
ReplyDeleteFunny enough, I remember, as a young person, seeing the original Lucy and Desi spanking scene.
I remember this deep satisfaction. Yes, she had it coming. I should have done the same. Even then I wondered if I shoul ever have the courage.
It is so interesting that others never had much experience or thoughts prior to their now DD/TTWD relationships now.
DeleteAnd yea Lucy always had it coming. She was always into some crazy stunt. I read somewhere that all those scenarios were her idea.
Interesting post, Minelle. I think my response would be similar to Bas. No experience, but I remember being intrigued when I watched McClintock and John Wayne took Maureen O'Hara over his knee. Or in the 1970s Harlequin Romances when the alpha male hero took the heroine over his knee.
ReplyDeleteI remember that movie and both scenes. I would watch it even if it was on at 3 in the morning. Actually I probably am familiar with most old movies that contain a spanking scene.
DeleteI also read many, many Harlequins with the alpha hero and the threat or an actual spanking occurring.
And yet I never shared with anyone. Crazy.
My Wife is very strong and strong-willed and has basically led our marriage with her determination and work ethic. I thought it would be easy for her to want to spank me, but when i asked her to do it one night in bed, she rejected the idea.I still want to experience this...any suggestions?
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