Oh Yea! I Love Spanking!

This weekend was a mixed bag of events. So my post is a bit of a mixed mash of thoughts, and maybe questions.

Hubby and I needed to leave our family gathering early to take care of parenting responsibilities. Not always pleasant but necessary.

Since we all understand the vagaries of life we need to take time to enjoy all we can.

So……..

Sunday morning dawned and we decided to make the most of our early return.

Reading around blog land you often hear moms complain that they are frequently interrupted during those inopportune intimate moments. Let me assure you that still can be the case with teens residing in the home. They do not even want to be reminded that at one or two times you ‘may’ have had sex in order to conceive them! Radar not engaged.

So Hubby and I decided since child # 2 was deep in la la land, we were safe to practice our ‘research’. However, we have something called small house syndrome, and sound travels easily. Rightly so, hubby was concerned about the recognizable sounds indicating spanking, so I took the bull by the horns and placed a fan in front of our son’s door and turned it on high. Problem solved! We have fans going in all the bedrooms so it was double coverage.

When we ‘practice’ I can barely contain Hubby! I mean why didn’t he say something about enjoying this erotic side of spanking? Since he was always threatening and spanking outside of the bedroom I knew he was somewhat of a spanko but his enthusiasm is dramatic!  Hubby was always happily engaged before, but I mean this is crazy! Good crazy!

 I am not really sure I understand how it is erotic for him. I understand the physiology for the spanked person. (Remember your link SNP) As to the psychological component I can trace the feelings I had when spanking was mentioned, read about in romance or seen in TV, or movies. Maybe it was considered more acceptable in my youth. It certainly appears that way considering what I have read in blog land for many spankos of my generation.

I can actually remember a conversation where I may have been between the ages of 15-17 with similarly aged family members. Several of us girls were watching a ‘Gidget’ rerun where an exchange student was spanked by her fiancé. We discussed the big philosophical question of who should/could spank a woman. (No judgment here just what was on our radar, and experience? I realize other dynamics abound and that’s great)

I often fought that assertion because it seemed very contrary to being a modern woman. So I continued to read and watch anything spanking related secretly…. while outwardly balking at the event, and at the same time weaving spanking stories in my head.

Since most stories, books, movies, TV etc., dealt with the discipline component….and hubby sort-of went there, mildly, playfully....

You can see how it took me so long to even begin to explore the erotic side of spanking, and be open with my husband. Plus I had so many balls I needed to keep in the air and manage as a strong wife and mother. (Some bloggers comment about those of us who have a great deal of responsibility, ie nurses, teachers etc., and enjoy the fantasy of not dealing with all our burdens?)

We have always enjoyed the intimacy of our marriage and were very open and enthusiastic to explore with each other. However, I wasn’t supposed to “go there.” I never ever expected to share this with hubby.

Maybe the natural way he already took it upon himself to use those ‘trigger words’ and follow through was what laid some of the ground work for me to be more open with myself, and with him. (Plus communicating with PK for a while and later with Sunnygirl)

For me the threat is part of the fantasy, The ‘Taken in Hand’ component of a story. Yet the other side is the eroticism of spanking itself.

Later on I did ask him if he was ok with all this new stuff, I know PK, why am I going there again?  Just going back to try and understand his enjoyment. He struggles with ‘some’ of what I have shown him, or read to him….But if we do not label it; his answer is often enthusiastically appreciative. (I try and understand, he has no need to understand.... SEE Bas, hubby and I too, are different)

 Maybe there is a learning curve for both of us.

This was his exact response, and expression:

His Eyes opened wide, he smiled and looked right at me and said, “oh yea! I love the spanking!” Seems very simple, huh?

We are still just tipping our toes in the water, but that’s ok for us.

Thanks for reading,

Minelle

No spanking, just a little background!

Just to give you a little bit of background:

I grew up in a very religious, large traditional family showered with a great deal of love.  There were five kids and both my parents. At times we also had others living with us.

 What’s the big deal about that, you say?

The house was an old Victorian in a middle class Irish Catholic neighborhood of a large Midwestern city. We had three bedrooms and one small bathroom.

 I am the eldest in a family of four girls and one boy. My parents had one bedroom, my brother the other, and the rest of us girls slept together in a full size or the king size bed we eventually inherited.

 During times throughout our youth we were often a safe place for others to join the family. We just adjusted, basically moved over and one more slept in the bed. We had scheduled bathroom time each and every morning, charted for the week! We would never have been able to leave the house on time otherwise. Hogging was pretty much eliminated.

We made tents in the back yard played with homemade toys and imagination. We read books to escape the mundane. We watched TV, eating popcorn and homemade fudge. We shared everything!  Responsibility and care for each other, was a natural extension of our love.

Now mind you the rules applied to all who lived in that house, it was a matter of respect. I may have balked at the rules as an adolescent but now I understand my parents’ often protective motivations. I can remember being outraged that my brother, who wasn’t even a full year younger took the bus to pick me up when I worked late.

As an adolescent I often had parties with the approval of my parents. We loved to dance, and we would roll up the carpet and go to town! Yep, still the same me. My younger siblings would cater to the needs of my friends just so they could watch us. Our house was the house everyone congregated at. Everyone was welcome!

 Later on as we each made our way to college and beyond other young adult extended family lived with us. At one time we were basically nine adults, seven of whom were between the ages of 16-23? We laugh a great deal remembering those years!

In spite of how it may sound our house was nice and we never went hungry. There was always room for one more at the table. We entertained, we had all our needs met and then some.

You may say where is she going with this?

We are going away this weekend staying in a large multi dwelling home with my entire family. There will be over 30 people. This is the second year at this location. At other times our attempts to vacation together have been fraught with mishaps and a great deal of humor.

I know all our teens think our family is great… but strange. Not too many of their friends parents enjoy the closeness we have with their own siblings etc. Maybe we are a bit too close, and for an open minded artist I may have needed more freedom; however I am willing to trade on those needs for the great relationships I have now.

I look forward to this weekend, making memories, with love laughter, fights and crazy adaptability!

Thanks for reading,

Minelle

His 'Take on Spanking' and more research

His ‘Take on Spanking’

Since we’ve embarked on this journey, I have needed some clarity on hubby’s perception or feelings. Spanking isn’t something we ever spoke about. I know that I have shared that at times prior to, and in our marriage hubby has pulled me over his knee. I can honestly say they are somewhat playful in nature. However, he is clearly voicing an opinion. Usually these happenings have been precipitated by me ‘losing it.’ I am outraged by something that has occurred, and I am making sure my righteous indignation is understood.

I am at times extremely vocal with my beliefs!

His actions (spanking) usually reset both our moods and I am laughing with him.

The interesting piece in his is that hubby says one (in the bedroom) is definitely sexually arousing, whereas the other in its purpose is not.  Hmmm.

He has made comments indicating a question as to the suitability of a playful punishment, if I like spanking. I cannot answer that question since I really have not changed. I just never shared this part of my spirit with him.

We have never discussed his actions. They just are. I am not threatened by what happens, I do not define it in any manner. I have always appreciated a strong man. (Hence the romance stories and spanking.)

Remember we do not practice domestic discipline, but he spanks. I know...

He is not controlling. He IS a very protective caring man.

Does this need to be defined or described?  Not for my husband. He doesn’t care for long discussions; I can see his eyes glaze over and I realize he is more into the practice.  

So on to the research…

Yes, we have continued our spanking research. It is an unmitigated success. I think he is quite impressed with how much he enjoys playing; I never thought he would take to it this enthusiastically.

We have discovered the importance of body positioning and placement of the hand. (We haven't advanced to anything else)

 It certainly allows for much communication and practice. He worries about stepping it up, and I worry about putting him out. Neither of us is yet disappointed. I believe we are steadily evolving in our dynamic. Frankly, its a  hell of a lot of fun!

If work and life do not interfere we will be able to ply away at our research so that a substantial body of work can be created.

Thanks for reading,

Minelle

  

  

A Little Chuckle

If you came for your spanking fix PK is hosting my story this week for FF!
elisnewbeginnings.blogspot.com


Now just a quick little chuckle…Mick on Husbandly Touch, probably has absolutely no idea that he inspired me to share this incident! Maybe you guys can let him know?


Remember I told you all that I love to dance? We have been going out some lately and enjoying ourselves. Sometimes the dance floor is filled with women dancing up a storm while the majority of men are sitting at tables watching. Sound familiar?


However this one particular evening my hubby and I were tearing up the floor! We both move pretty well. (Especially for our age! Ha! Ha!) The band was thrilled since we encouraged a few others to foray on to the floor.


We needed to leave since hubby had to work the weekend. We were making our way out and he was going toward the door to open it. As I passed a table of gentleman, I alone was loudly encouraged to STAY!



I actually looked around to see who they were talking to at first. There was no doubt they were talking to me. Seriously not my thing! I was totally flabbergasted. I thought, did they get a look at my face?  I am not some young thing. Hubby missed this interchange. When I mentioned it as we continued out the door he said, “well I am not sure I like that!”  He is not the jealous type at all! We do not play those games.




 “Was I dancing too suggestively or something?” (Remember your story sunnygirl?)


 “No, WE were dancing together,”


Here’s the funny that came out of that discussion...


 I know he was trying to pay me a compliment and said... I have no problem with them admiring you, from afar.


You’re MY wife.


Then he ruined it by concluding his nice thought with, it’s like a museum piece, you can look but not touch.


WHAT??!!! I am not a museum piece! At least not yet!


Thanks for reading
Minelle

Research and Pooky's Quiz

One of the best things to happen to hubby and I recently is the ability to reclaim and rediscover how much fun we have together.

I think I am shocking him! Mind you he is game!

We are having great conversations about the different types of spanking, and I find his answers to my questions to be exactly what I expected! He thought I didn’t know! Lol

This past weekend we were able to go out for some socializing! Luckily we returned home to a teen free zone and we were able to do a little spanking research.

Now….I thought I would join the fun:

Pooky’s little survey if you will...

1. Have you read 50 Shades of Grey? Have you read all of them? Yep!

2. Have you read any other spanking fiction? I have been reading romance novels since I was young; they often included spanking as part of the story. Around 5 years ago I discovered spanking fiction on the internet.

3. Did you start reading them before or after the 50 Shades? Way before!

4. Where do you find your find the best books? Blushingbooks, lulu, Barnes and Noble!

5. Have you ever written any spanking fiction? Just a wee bit!

6. Do you follow Pk's Fantasy Fridays? Have you ever written for her? I have followed PK’s FF for many years! Yes, I have penned three stories for her.

7. Have you Read Clint's Bootcamp Book? Did you participate in it after you purchased it? No I have not read the book.

8. Are you a reader in Real life? How serious?  I have always been a voracious reader.   I have many interests, and my books are a testament to those interests!

9. Do you generally purchase your reading material, check it out at the library, or borrow from a friend? Well I often purchase or borrow from family and friends. I do not usually check out material from the library because I never seem to return the books on time. Sad but true, so I do not allow myself to go there anymore!!

10. Are you more likely to leave a review if you loved the book or hated it? If there aren’t any redeeming qualities to a book I would not finish it. That doesn’t happen often. I think I am always able to find the positive and enjoy a book! I believe reading opens our minds and expands our horizons.

Thanks for reading!

Minelle

I Love To Dance

I love to Dance!

Well I do! That is actually the way hubby and I met.

I had and have a great group of girlfriends. We always went out every weekend dancing. Mind you we frequented bars and clubs that played any and every type of music, and we always looked out for each other.

Now you have to have a little background here to get the complete picture. I may have acted a bit wild and crazy, and may have dressed the part as well……but I was, shhhh, very, as in code word VERY naïve in experience! Not in my knowledge, after all I am educated.

I know…get on with it. Well this place was near where I grew up. It was what we called… a...New Wave club. I was dancing with all the girls and having a grand time!

Then, I had THAT feeling, and looked up, and here is this guy crooking his finger at me pointing to the dance floor in front of him. Now If I had felt the creepy factor, I would have turned around and ignored him. No icky vibes, so I slowly made my way gracefully, b-bopping over to the edge where he was dancing.  

We danced and talked the entire night. Of course I realized right quick that he had an accent. Well!!! That is all I will tell you about that. You all know what an accent does to us American girls! Don't say anything those of you across the pond, it's a good thing!

The best part was that knowing I was leaving ‘with’ my friends he walked me out and said he would call. What a gentleman.

BTW… I would be lying if I said ‘the gentleman’ didn’t try and convince me to go with him, but after a kiss I was pulled into the car to drive away with my friends.

He called and called. We had great conversations, and talks about our families. I knew that someone who loved his family unconditionally like he did was a man I could let into my heart.

So ‘we’ began.

It wasn’t always a bed of roses; I may have even thrown the ring at him a time or two!! People can describe me in many kind ways but I can be bossy, self-righteous and feisty.  (You wonder….Is this where you get a spanking…..?)

We have each had less than stellar moments but we genuinely love each other and have fun when we can! (And we never stay mad we always make-up)

Remember we are not DD- but hubby always, always threatened to turn me over his knee from the very beginning. He has also suited action to words but not very heartily, HALF playfully! We both enjoyed (secretly) those moments and moved on…

All these 24 years together we skirted the ‘spanking’ play. Until I felt compelled to email my friend PK. After I sent PK my story and she posted it, I thought about sharing these parts of me more openly with him. (After all I have belonged to spanking story sites, and have been reading blogs for going on 5 ish years)

Woo Hoo PK!!

After partaking of a lovely strong Cosmopolitan, I took the plunge, and shared my story. He read some of ‘Into the Alley’ from my phone in a bar!! I am definitely not a writer but I enjoy the process of putting my take on a fantasy into words.

Well I will leave you with this…..We have moved the spankings from the living room to the bedroom. We have found that we are BOTH into it from different Vantage points. Me across his knees! Yes he is definitely enjoying this!!

Minelle

Pretty Vanilla

Well PK has done it again!

I really didn’t expect I would ever start a blog. I mean it took me 5 years of reading off and on to actually email PK!! However, when I read her ‘Lifestyle’ post I felt compelled to connect and show my support!

 Well, let me tell you she is a great LADY. Of course all of you already knew that! She is warm, personable and caring.

We had some wonderful conversations that allowed me to have the daring to script my first spanking story. Writing is a very vulnerable inducing passion, and not being a natural it was difficult. I am a pleaser, so when I put my creative energy into something be it painting, drawing or telling a story, I worry about its reception. Maybe everyone feels that their creative work is an extension of themselves?

Because it is such a personal process, I have been agonizing about the decision to start a blog, even after a few of you (PK, sunnygirl and faerie) suggested I give it a try. After weeks, yes weeks of trying, laugh all you want---- feel sorry for PK and Sunnygirl.

 I decided to email sunnygirl. She has a unique outlook on life that also gave me the courage to ‘do it my way,’ which WAS sunnygirl’s advice!

My hardest decision thus far was what to name the blog! So after tossing out many, many ideas, I tried an approach that I often use to get ideas rolling!

I opened a book randomly. The book was ‘Leaves of Grass’ by Walt Whitman. On the page my eyes settled on the phrase, ‘My Breath.’ Perfect! (Of course now I know how unoriginal the name turned out to be….just ask PK)

I went to the dictionary; yes… an old fashioned book, not the computer. I looked up ‘My’ and part of the definition indicated: Expressive of surprise, pleasure or dismay. Then I paged through to find Breath…..aside from the natural, respiration, it said: A momentary stirring of air, a trace, and a soft spoken sound. You can guess that it appealed to my artistic romantic nature.

So that will be the name of this blog,…..or something close!

I love that this community accepts everyone as they are. No judgments, a great deal of positive support.

Thanks to all who have said such nice things about my stories, and those of you who allowed the crazy “lurker” to comment.

These are not in any order,

PK of course, Sunnygirl, faerie, Ronnie, SNP, Paul, Rogue, Christina, Abby, Patty, Playful little brat, JJ, Heather, Michelle Carlyle, Kay, Stormy, Florida Dom, Kitty, Susie, Mick, Hermione and Bas.

Reneerose~closetgirl, thanks for the lurker shout out!

Next time…..I’ll tell you more about US.

We are not a dd couple but….. hubby is a spanker……

Minelle